Saturday, December 3, 2016
IT IS MILITARY COURTESY....MR PARRIKAR!!!
From my niece, a gynaecologist, daughter of an EME Brig, & wife of a GUARDS Col, Retd.
''I am a very proud of my forces background and upbringing. we were taught a place and time for a certain attire and behaviour. etiquette was fed with porridge in the morning.
We were taught you dress in a certain way to respect those around you .. the same logic of 'when in rome', we cannot use when in rome ONLY to allow promiscuity and drinking and eating beef- because there is no supposed choice, and then forget it when it means dressing formally, or following a behaviour code.
Traditions, exspecially of the forces are strong and long standing because the place survives on order, authority, confidence and responsibility..and anyone who deals with the forces, should have the basic decency to understand that .
I abhorr the so flippancy of the new age MBAs and omnipresent "corporate culture" that calls people by the first name ,[even without asking them first]. I hate being called anything but doctor by my patients, because I have worked long and hard to be called that. I would never chew gum in front of my professor, attend a convocation in slippers, all because there is a certain decorum to the occasion.
If you were right, Mr Parrikar , there would be no uniforms, there would be no popes vestments, there would be no tuxedos and no dressing up for an occasion
I was pleasantly surprised that the Europeans don't show their shoulders and arms to the pope -they cover up for the vatican. Shorts are not allowed either, for both sexes. So when I see new age pipsqueaks in shorts in a temple, it gets my goat!!. I appreciate temples like guruvayor that stick to their guns and state that we cannot lose our indianness, we should learn to be proud of it!
So Mr Parikkar, when you decide to attend an August Naval occasion looking like you are going to buy bread and eggs from a nearby kirana shop. It reeks of disdain for one of the greatest institutions. Its a slap in the face to the millions of men who are bowing to you simply because of the post you hold.
I dont remember Mr Modi walking around in a jibba in the United Nations. And even dhothis and national jackets convey a certain style. Even B schools teach you basic traditions and acceptable behaviour when you do buisness with countries like China and Japan. So I am sure you understand the importance of decency, or does that only count when it is other countries?
You may be from Goa, the bikini state, but even there, no one wears a bikini to a wedding Sir. You may be brilliant, and powerful, .but, respect is a two way street Sir, and impropriety reeks of misplaced arrogance. So watch your step!!"
Dr Divya T Sudarshan
(Source - Via gp e-mail from Carl Gomes)